tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12672375.post6375480331222037565..comments2023-10-01T22:48:35.439+11:00Comments on Oh for the love of me!: Good Mother, Bad MotherTinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03684484016009801609noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12672375.post-11979933469035521372008-04-18T17:59:00.000+10:002008-04-18T17:59:00.000+10:00LB:Oh good Lord, no no NO! What am I, a mother pig...<B>LB:</B><BR/>Oh good Lord, no no NO! What am I, a mother pig?! :p<BR/><BR/><B>Beetrice:</B><BR/>That would be fantastic birth control. <BR/><BR/>"If you think sex without protection is fantastic, try screaming children!"<BR/><BR/>Err the niece and nephew ah? Err I think you know lah :P<BR/><BR/><B>Adino:</B><BR/>You know, when it really is my turn, I'd be reading lots and lots and LOTS of books on this :)<BR/>When I was in the UK, I was in a foster program where a couple of friends and I were attached to a Scottish couple. They were fantastic with their children. They were polite and well-behaved. When one of them started to fret, all the father did was firmly say NO. No shouting, no screaming, definitely no smacking. And everytime the children did something for the parents, the parents were quick to thank the children and praise them for a job well done. <BR/>I'd love to do that. <BR/><BR/>Btw, I think you'd make a fantastic dad :)<BR/><BR/><B>Trinity:</B><BR/>God I hope so. I wouldn't know until I start experiencing it, eh? :p<BR/><BR/><B>Jemima:</B><BR/>Thanks for having faith in me, my dear :)<BR/><BR/><B>Mummy: </B><BR/>You know, that is exactly what my mum would tell me :p Anyways, yeah, I don't expect every moment to be perfect. In fact, I'd expect a lot of imperfect moments. Just need to see the good before getting overwhelmed by the bad. <BR/><BR/><B>Susan:</B><BR/>I don't know if I'd be able to have the heart to leave my child crying and not bother about him/her :p But yeah, I know what you mean. I think the instincts will come in when the time comes.<BR/><BR/><B>Mrs Top Monkey:</B><BR/>Fingers crossed, Mrs Top Monkey. Congratulations on the upcoming new addition to the family :)<BR/><BR/><B>Little Comma:</B><BR/>From what I read, I just love the little things you do with lil' Ivan. I think I'm learning from you :)<BR/><BR/><B>Paris:</B><BR/>Thanks for the faith :) <BR/><BR/><B>Andie Summerkiss:</B><BR/>It's amazing, isn't it? I guess it's the environment in which they were growing up in. Maybe not at home, but school could have played a role in the disciplining. Or maybe the parents secretly wallop the kids? :P<BR/><BR/><B>Kimmy:</B><BR/>Good Lord, even reading about giving children tuition or working in a nursery is giving me the creeps! But thanks for the compliments on my mum :PTinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03684484016009801609noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12672375.post-90554288999809966582008-04-16T18:17:00.000+10:002008-04-16T18:17:00.000+10:00Maybe you can try working in a nursery or getting ...Maybe you can try working in a nursery or getting involved with giving tuition for young kids. It's not the same as having your own but can be a small step in practicing motherhood ;).<BR/><BR/>I bet you'll be a great mother just like yours.Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00739169899788406913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12672375.post-10692516030342473932008-04-16T15:12:00.001+10:002008-04-16T15:12:00.001+10:00My sister's inlaws don't believe in beatings. Thei...My sister's inlaws don't believe in beatings. Their children were so naughty running here and there. But they turn out ok grown up. Much better than children who were disciplined physically. <BR/><BR/>That was kinda a big question for me too. How come ??Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12672375.post-38364985027094720872008-04-16T15:12:00.000+10:002008-04-16T15:12:00.000+10:00My sister's inlaws don't believe in beatings. Thei...My sister's inlaws don't believe in beatings. Their children were so naughty running here and there. But they turn out ok grown up. Much better than children who were disciplined physically. <BR/><BR/>That was kinda a big question for me too. How come ??Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12672375.post-51216926572477232742008-04-15T15:11:00.000+10:002008-04-15T15:11:00.000+10:00I'm no authority but I'm sure you'll be a good mom...I'm no authority but I'm sure you'll be a good mom. After all, a good mom or not depends on perspective yes? Don't worry unduly. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12672375.post-12084447605225720392008-04-13T03:25:00.000+10:002008-04-13T03:25:00.000+10:00I came across some mummies like that too.. with so...I came across some mummies like that too.. with some even worse, and it's really sad. Having said that, I, myself will just try my best to be good mummy even though at times it's rather challenging. :)littleCommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04232643724455016029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12672375.post-23079254949440530322008-04-13T02:32:00.000+10:002008-04-13T02:32:00.000+10:00Since I'm on my way to being one, I really liked t...Since I'm on my way to being one, I really liked this entry. I too worry about whether I'll be a good enough mum and what I'm going to do when the kid starts throwing tantrums the way kids always do.<BR/><BR/>I never wanted kids, didn't want them when I first met my husband but something changed later and now I'm ecstatic to have one on the way. You may feel that way someday to, Tine!Mrs Top Monkeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10748775581211289207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12672375.post-44803311965026454732008-04-12T18:55:00.000+10:002008-04-12T18:55:00.000+10:00I'm not into kids too... but somehow we had some p...I'm not into kids too... but somehow we had some programs in TV how to make a good child out of a wild child (somehow it was very similar to the same program, but about dogs :-)) You may read some psychological books about raising a child and there should give you advice how to punish the child without being hurt. Like when it is crying because he want something, only let it cry and when the child see that you do not react on it, the child stop. At least it should... :-)<BR/>By the way, my mum sad, that she was not into kids too, but when she was pregnant, her mother instincts woked up :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12672375.post-278514364138780832008-04-11T23:58:00.000+10:002008-04-11T23:58:00.000+10:00Before we have children, we have our ideals of wha...Before we have children, we have our ideals of what we want our child to be like, or how we want to bring the child up. It is only when motherhood strikes, every moment cannot be a perfect moment. It is very easy to be judgemental & say that "I hope that that I won't be a horrible mother too" like so and so. Perhaps others would also throw judgement and say why another mother is not disciplining the child, or perhaps why her friend is interfering, if both had reacted in the exact opposites, in another scenario. Until we become mothers, we just bring the child up in the best that we hope to be, but there will be moments where one may totally lost the plot too.Mummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06557091669161971899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12672375.post-52591846600135889162008-04-11T14:55:00.000+10:002008-04-11T14:55:00.000+10:00Not that I've any experience but I believe that on...Not that I've any experience but I believe that one's maternal instincts develops when one is good & ready for motherhood.<BR/><BR/>You'll make a wonderful mum to some lucky children, Tine. I know 'coz I trust my instincts.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12672375.post-2749875620341432162008-04-11T14:34:00.000+10:002008-04-11T14:34:00.000+10:00Hm... being a mother can be hard and need patient....Hm... being a mother can be hard and need patient..but what you saw is merely one bad moment of mother's life.. hehehe... there are lots and lots of grateful, memorable, fun, moments that wait for you to enjoy by being a mother..believe me...<BR/><BR/>your children voice, face, smell, words, deeds... are simply adorable! I think it's one of the best gift God have given me... my hubby and children!Trinityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10438132815959130926noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12672375.post-64741772191140046372008-04-11T13:59:00.000+10:002008-04-11T13:59:00.000+10:00I'm reading a lot about this topic, since my very ...I'm reading a lot about this topic, since my very own baby is on the way.<BR/><BR/>What we need to practice is not so much of discipline (i.e. rotan and smacking), but of training our children (think of training your puppy).<BR/><BR/>If you child is well trained, then there is no need to discipline.<BR/><BR/>Discipline by using rotan may be necessary sometimes, but it is just a 'tool'. It is not the entire process in itself.<BR/><BR/>Having said that, it is more dangerous to use your hand to smack a child than using a rotan. You transfer more force using your hands, and you may cause bone / spinal damage.<BR/><BR/>There is a fine line between child abuse and discipline. The books teach me never to hit a child while in a state of anger.<BR/><BR/>Discipline must always be given out methodically, calmly. Not when you are in a fit of stress induced rage.<BR/><BR/>Hope I can put to practice what I've read in theory!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12672375.post-75624413178296948712008-04-11T12:42:00.000+10:002008-04-11T12:42:00.000+10:00err...want to practice on your niece and nephew fi...err...want to practice on your niece and nephew first then? :D<BR/><BR/>but honestly, sometimes I felt those horror tantrums should've been used in birth control campaigns - "if you're not careful, you'll end up with one of THESE screaming kids" (more effective than threatening STDs right? children are PERMANENT!)...*ROFL*beetricehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07401177611828567863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12672375.post-38646341908329181262008-04-11T11:36:00.000+10:002008-04-11T11:36:00.000+10:00Yeah, I bet you'd eventually make a wonderful moth...Yeah, I bet you'd eventually make a wonderful mother... 5 kids..L Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00747649766642650870noreply@blogger.com